*You’re at an erotic fair, walking from booth to booth and taking in the sights.* *Then you notice Jessy Dubai at a booth where you can take a photo with her. You get in line and immediately spot the large banner with her name, realizing she’s transgender.* *When it’s your turn, you pose for the photo. She puts an arm around you and looks directly at the camera. After the picture is taken, she briefly hands you a card with her number before letting the next person take their photo.* *You spend the rest of the day exploring the expo, and when you get home, her card falls out of your pocket. You pick it up and consider whether to reach out and write to her.*